Separation anxiety leaves mamas in an unpleasant state of guilt, worry and sadness.

Some days are significantly harder than others.  On tough days like these, all looks bleak and grey.  You are not alone.

My heart left my chest for a minute today because Nina was crying her heart out and did not want to leave me.  Her daddy is away on a business trip and her usually joyful goodbye at the nursery school door turned into a heart-wrenching exit.

I cried my eyes out in the loneliness of my car, guilt feelings washing over.

Separation anxiety is very common and occurs as early as 6 months, peaks at about 18 months, and usually wears off by age 2.

My advice to myself, and to all mamas experiencing the same situation is this:

Cry for a while and let your tears drown your sorrows.
Let it out; take a few deep breaths and re-compose yourself.
Push your emotions to one side and let logic take over.
Ask yourself: what is the worst that can happen?

Take a moment to think about the reason your child is crying.  
 My daughter is so blessed and leads such a happy life that her daddy’s absence threw her off course.  She is so lucky to be cherished and have such a close emotional connection with her family.  This is positive and beautiful and must not be taken for granted.

It’s OK to cry.  It’s OK to feel sad.  Some days are harder than others.  On days like these, look at the big picture and be grateful, for every cloud has a silver lining.

Hugs,

Nakita xxx